Myrth Ellers

State of Maryland
10/26/1906 - 11/16/1977
Buried:
Woodlawn Cemetery, South Elgin
Section Gwynn Oak, MD
Myrth with her sister-in-law Catherine
Glenn Ellers at the beach - most likely Ocean City
Wedding photo - she was married March
20, 1926

age 15
1940's
Christmas 1971 - a heavy smoker, she
would suffer a stroke the following year and be diagnosed with
breast cancer in 1975
Myth's elder sister Margaret.
According to family, there is Native American in the family. It is
very obvious in pictures of Aunt Margaret.
My great grandmother Sallie with
Margaret (l) and Myrth (r)

Benjamin Franklin Ellers, Jr. "Uncle Frank"
Further proof the family lived on
Mount Street - the uncropped version of this photo state that was
taken on Mount Street at the alley street.
Probably Forney Alley. The house is gone now, torn out along with
several other row homes.
9 Glenwood Avenue in Catonsville -
taken in the 1940's.
 Glenwood Avenue today.
It is still a gorgeous residence.
3637 Hilmar Road - built by my
grandfather in 1953.
 Grandma, Grandpop and Aunt Margaret -
taken at Loch Raven

 Hilmar Road in the late 60's
 Grandma
and Grandpop in the 1940's at Glenwood
 On
Frederick Road near what is now probably Franklin Elementary
 nephew
E. Earle Stickell
 Myrth
and sister Minnie |
My mother's mother has always been a
been of a mystery to me and so has her family. Myrth - my
grandmother - my mother’s mother - Grandma.
A wonderful, beautiful, talented woman that I didn’t know a great
deal about - and despite what I’ve discovered I still don’t I
suppose. She died from breast cancer on November 16, 1977. I was
twelve years old. She had spent the previous 22 months undergoing
the disabling process of chemotherapy which would leave her frail,
weak, bald and without any real desire to live. Diagnosed in early
1975 following a stroke, she underwent a radical mastectomy for a
cancer that was already raging in her lymph nodes and most likely
the remainder of her body as well. I suppose that the chemo halted
the spread of the disease, but ultimately it delayed the end,
turning the whole process of dying into what had to be an
excruciatingly slow and painful death - something no one should ever have to experience. Ultimately she had to know that she
was dying, and was helpless in the wake of this terrible illness.
Sadly, when she knew she was dying, she began to remove photos from
albums and burn things - telling my mother that she didn't want her
pictures to wind up in an antique store or with people that didn't
care. I was too young at the time to understand why she was doing
what she was doing, but with my decision to do genealogy, I made up
my mind that nobody would ever forget anyone's story - especially
hers. My memories of my her are fleeting - I can recall them like
snapshots in a photo album - but unfortunately there aren’t as
prolific as they could have been had she lived longer.
I
remember rings of flowers and leaves in our hair
at Blackwater Falls State Park in West Virginia; playing in her
backyard at 3637 Hilmar Road and building teepees; her glorious rose
bushes (tended carefully by my grandfather); the azalea bushes over
the grave where their dog Tyler was buried; the garden in the back
yard; trying on a Peter Pan
costume that she made me; raking leaves in their front yard;
Thanksgiving dinner at their home (she was a fabulous cook); sleeping over and getting to
sleep with grandma; the huge attic in their house where my sister
and I would run and play, literally for hours; dressing up in her
gorgeous old dresses; being told by a relative that her grandfather
was a Native American --then suddenly the wonderful memories
cease and desist altogether, and all I remember from that point on
was her being very, very sick - and then just as abruptly she was
gone. I remember seeing my grandfather lean over her casket with
tears in his eyes and kiss her goodbye. They had known
each other since 1921 - they met when she was 15.
In cleaning out their house one year, my
parents unearthed boxes of photos and other keepsakes, poems, notes
and baby books - all covered with my grandmothers distinctive
handwriting. Nobody wanted it, nobody was interested in it at all
and for fear that it would land in the garbage, I procured a box
full of the irreplaceable items, took them home and began to sort
and in rapt fascination,
began to read - and read - and read. This is how I’ve come to know
this grandmother. With the help of my mother in
2002, who literally sat for hours and made me tapes detailing what
she remembered and was told by others about the family, I've added onto what was already there - in the letters and
poetry and most especially what was handwritten all over the the photos. Now
that I’ve discovered more of who she really was, I wish that she had
lived longer. I believe we could have been fast friends.
“My little hoard of precious themes, of
things that were. My one life’s real blessing. Thank you God.” Myrth
Glenn, 1957
According to my mother, my grandmother was
born Myrth Ellers on October 25, 1906. She lived, for a time in a
big white house on the Chester River in Chestertown, on Maryland’s
rural Eastern Shore. I don't know how true this was because the
family is listed on the Baltimore census in 1910 at 104 N. Mount Street in
West Baltimore. I do know that the Ellers family was
originally from the Eastern Shore of Maryland so there very likely
was a family home that they visited frequently. The home my mother spoke of was eventually sold to the
Methodist Church and used as a camp on the
Chester River. Per vital records the area was known as Booker's Warf
at the time and is now Pecometh Camp. There has been some discrepancy as to the spelling of her
first name. I was always told that it was spelled Mirth, but in a
note written to her by her mother, the spelling is given as Myrth -
whether that was a first name, middle name or a nickname remains a
mystery. I will use the spelling her mother used. I believe
her full name was most likely Norah Myrth Ellers.
She always told me that she was youngest
of 10 children born to Sarah “Sallie” Everngam (b. 1865) and Benjamin Franklin
Ellers, Sr. (b. 1861) Sallie and Benjamin’s first child
was James Martin Ellers (Uncle Marty), born in 1883 when Sallie was
just 17. Next were a set of
triplets who died because Sallie couldn’t nurse them. From
what I can glean from birth dates and census records - Sally was
around 16 when she was married - either in 1881 or 1882. As a
teenager, I can not imagine giving birth to triplets. There were no
hospitals in the area at the time. According
to my mother, the next child born was MInnie
Ellers, born in 1889. The fourth child was Ada, who, again because there were no hospitals, died at the age
of eight from diphtheria. According to the family, Sallie took
the child’s death very hard. According to her death
certificate, she died in 1901, and while the family was living in
Baltimore by then, Ada died at "Booker's Warf" in Queen Anne's
County. Sallie had given birth to six children - four of them were deceased. Next born was Benjamin Franklin, Jr. in 1897, Lelia in 1900,
Margaret in 1904, followed by my grandmother. Grandma
never finished school - her writings are quite an accomplishment
considering she never went beyond the sixth grade - something that
is inconceivable by today’s standards. Years later, when she went
to work for the state of Maryland, they requested the name of her
high school. She either made one up or gave them the name of one
that had long closed, so that they couldn’t trace the records. My
mother always thought that she was ashamed of the fact that she
didn’t complete school.
The Ellers family lived in Centerville, in Queen Anne's County but
by 1900 they were in Baltimore in the 100 block of Mount Street.
Sallie was the mother of 8 children but per the 1900 census only 5
were living. Ada would died the following year. Then it gets interesting. According to the 1910 census the next
children were Margaret and Norah. Margaret is listed as 5 years old
and if you look at the handwritten census itself, Norah is listed as 3. Also with the
family in 1910 was Aunt Minnie's husband, Samuel Stickel and her son Earl
- born in 1906. James Martin Ellers and his wife Minnie Kraft were also
living at the Mount Street home along with their three children -
Mamie, Genevieve and James P. Ellers. Mamie is listed with a 1906
birth date. The name missing is my grandmother's. There is no "Myrth"
listed at all - just Norah.
According to my mother and my grandmother - James Martin - "Uncle
Marty" as my mother knew him, fell while repairing a roof. The fall
apparently left him with a severe head injury and he was committed
to Springfield State Hospital in Carroll County. From Springfield in Eldersburg, he
was transferred to Spring Grove Hospital in Catonsville about 1922. Census records confirm this - in
1920 he is listed on the rolls at Springfield and by 1930 he is at
Spring Grove, so the injury had to have occurred sometime between
1910 and 1920. He used to wander away from the hospital a lot and
they would call my grandmother to let her know that he was missing. Normally he would be found very
quickly but one winter he wandered away and was never located. A
farmer found his remains in his field the following spring as he was
plowing. His death date is listed as May 1977, but he probably died
sometime the previous winter. His death certificate lists heart
trouble as the cause of death with schizophrenia listed as a
contributing factor. What is even more perplexing is this: while the
1920 census reveals Uncle Marty in Springfield Hospital, his wife Minnie disappeared
completely. His son James P. Ellers was placed in St.
Vincents Male Orphans Asylum - he is on the rolls there in 1920 and
by 1930 he is listed in the City Jail. In 1920, Genevieve was in the
House of the Good Shepherd for White Girls which was just up the
street from the family home and by 1930 she was listed as a domestic
in a local home. There is no Mamie - she appears to have vanished
too - but a Mary Ellers now appears as a niece with Minnie Stickle and
her family. Given her age and birthdate - this is the same child. Just as suddenly on the 1920 census - a "Mirth" appears -
listed as 13 years old and the daughter of Sally and Benjamin Ellers.
Same address. If my grandmother was born in October 1906 like she
said, and the census was taken in June 1920 - she would have indeed
been 13. So where was she in 1910? She would have been 3. I believe
that her name was really Norah and that it was either changed to
Myrth - or Myrth was her middle name. I have been
unable to locate a birth certificate for her - all I have is a death
certificate. Trying to find relatives willing to talk has proven
even more difficult - her sister's son told me years ago that there
was some "family secret" but he had no clue what it was. Perhaps
this is the reason she began burning things when she discovered she
was dying. Perhaps she didn't want people to find out - perhaps not.
What is perplexing is the disappearance of James Martin Ellers'
wife. It is Of course it is possible that she remarried - but why
were two of her children placed in orphanages? Where is the third -
Mamie/Mary?
Did she died young? Questions I will probably never have answers to.
The man Grandma called daddy was a
boatman, probably a fisherman, who captained an ice breaker in the
winter when the bay froze over to help get boats through to
Baltimore’s inner harbor. He began drinking and eventually abandoned
the family. Either that or Sallie threw him out. He came back a few
times, once which precipitated a fight in which my grandmother’s
kitten was stepped on and killed. He became a shoemaker and used to
fix my grandmother’s shoes, so he apparently did see his children
every now and then. Eventually I believe he drifted away from the
family altogether. Myrth’s wedding invitation contains only her
mother’s name; however, her father would not die until 1928, almost
a full 2 years later, from
pneumonia. He was apparently picked up on the street and somehow
the hospital eventually got in touch with her. When she went to see
him, she found him lying completely naked in a hospital bed. She
always said that when elderly people were picked up off of the
street, the hospitals would take away their clothes, and leave them
uncovered so that they would catch pneumonia and die. In an age with
no health insurance, if you couldn’t pay the doctors, you were
essentially left on your own. My grandmother always blamed the
hospital for her father’s death, although his lifestyle probably did nothing
to help his condition.
Her sister Minnie's husband Samuel Stickel was a
sailor who worked in the boiler room of a ship during WWI. He apparently had
contracted syphilis prior to his marriage while in the service that he passed on to her. She died a terrible
death according to my grandmother. Sallie used to send my
grandmother and her sister Margaret to clean Minnie’s house after
she married because she was never well after that. Her husband died
later; the heat in the boiler room where he worked at Mt. Claire aggravating his syphilis and
making it worse. There were two children born of this union - Doretta, and
Edward Earle Stickel
- the boy my grandmother called “my beautiful nephew.” And he was
handsome. What became of the niece, Mary is unknown.
Aunt Margaret married twice, but never had
any children of her own. Her first husband was Richard Irvin Boteler, a jealous
little man who, despite an affair of his own, would make my
great-aunt wear numerous slips so that no one could see through her
dress. She divorced him and remarried Irwin Charbonnet, a cajun
from a large and respected family in New Orleans. He had several children of his own from a previous
marriage, two of whom Margaret raised as her own. Aunt Lelia married Garland Wilson Glenn, my
grandfather’s brother and Benjamin Franklin, Jr. (Uncle Frank) married
Catherine Glenn, my grandfather’s niece (daughter of his eldest
brother, Charles Rensalier Glenn, Sr.) following the death of his
first wife Gertrude Davis.
Ocean City was apparently a favorite
family haunt, for I have photos of her as a young girl and in middle
age on the beach with different assorted family members and friends.
Most of the photos though, were taken on the Eastern Shore on a
family farm. My grandfather came in to the picture about 1921, when
Grandma was about 15 years old. Her mother had a piano in the house,
and my grandfather would stop by, play a few tunes and run back out
the door. He lived a few houses up the street (108 N. Mount Street) and had a little dance band. According to
her, he was a full seven and a half-years older than she, being born
March 20, 1899, and supposedly this caused quite the scandal, most
notably with her mother. Sanford, wanted to marry my grandmother the
second she turned eighteen but her mother apparently had fits and
they agreed to wait until she was nineteen. They finally married
on March 20, 1926, which was also my grandfather’s birthday. She
would turn twenty in October.
Following the wedding, she and Grandpop lived at 4205 Potter Avenue
in the city. That home is still there - very near to Loudon Park
Cemetery off of Frederick Road. The following is some of her writing regarding the
marriage and their first home:
~~My
ring - Sanford gave me on October 25, 1924 - It was on my eighteenth
birthday. It was wonderful, that night, all the world seemed in
harmony. The things he said were all that counted and then - the
answer I gave him.
~~Our first dinner I
served on Sunday 3/21st/26 - - -It wasn't very fine - of course we
weren't very hungry. Noone is ever hungry when in love.
~~We entered out little
apartment on our Wedding night. Every thing was in readiness. We ate
our first breakfast - our Wedding breakfast in our little blue
kitchen. Outside the birds were singing and the trees were just
coming into bud - because this was the first day of spring. The
birds were beginning to build their little nest - the same as we.
"Life holds nothing sweeter than it's Springtime."
~~Our little breakfast
room is of white and blue. It is the best room to me. It is all mine
- it is a little throne to - where I alone am queen. It is so cozy,
and I can look out and see the pretty trees, birds, and over in the
trees I have seen fluffy squirrels. Our living room is of blue -
most everything blends. We have pretty floor lamps that cast a soft
mellow glow - just like a moonlight night. I love to sit there in
the big chair and listen to my sweetheart at the piano.
My
favorite has to be this:
~~Bits of me - that come
from God - I give to you. ~Mirth
~~To my husband, Mar
21st/26 All true deep feeling purifies the heart.
Am I not better by my love for thee? Still - I'm not selfish. I
would give my life to buy you happiness. ~ Mirth
My
grandfather responded with gorgeous writing of his own
-
~~Life is so short and
"Love is all I'm seeking"
But - Love comes but once
and then perhaps too late.
May we both live to be
each others.
Pretty impressive considering that she never made it past 6th grade.
The pictures I have of my grandparents
during the twenties are idyllic; photos taken at Loch Raven, Ten
Hills, Druid Hill Park, and Woodlawn Lake, which is now the entrance
to old Woodlawn Cemetery. Each is covered with handwritten humorous
commentary and some is labeled with affectionate nicknames. Some is
just plain charming and makes quite the humorous albeit aged
observation about girls - they haven’t changed at all. One
page from a photo album is labeled
“THE BOY” and is quite literally covered with photos of my
grandfather. Adorable? Absolutely. Obsessive? Probably, but who
cares, she was a teenager and he was a very good looking young man. I
think every teenage girl plasters pictures of her heart-throb
somewhere. Grandma just chose to put hers in a photo album and
titled it in big, bold letters with a number 2 pencil so that anyone
who was looking could see who it was that she was obviously in love
with. Shy? Her? I don’t think so. They were
married for 51 years.
Their first home was 9 Glenwood Avenue in
Catonsville, built in 1928. Just off the Baltimore Beltway today, back in the
twenties, it was considered the boonies and everyone in the family
made sure they told them so. No one wanted to live way out in
Baltimore County then. Anyone who was anyone still lived in
the city. It is here that my mother was born. She was actually
born just down the street at St. Agnes Hospital, and she spent most of
her formidable years living in that home. It wasn’t until my mother
reached high school, that Grandpop decided to build a home of his
own in what is now Rockdale, just south of Randallstown off of
Liberty Rd.
In 1928 within a few short
months of each other, my grandmother lost her sister Minnie and her
father. Both were laid out in front of fireplace at the Glenwood
Avenue residence. I often wonder what the current residents would
think if they knew that their living room was used as funeral space.
All of the Ellers relatives from the Eastern shore came to pay their
respects and stayed for a brief time with my grandparents. By the
time the second funeral ended, according to my mother, my grandmother almost broke down
herself. The stress of having 2 bodies laid out in her living room
and having to feed and house an army of people took it’s toll.
After Minnie died, grandma took in her two
children, Earle and Doretta Stickle. Minnie was considerable older
than Myrth, and her children were fairly close in age in to her. My
grandmother was by all accounts a beautiful woman, and her
“beautiful nephew” did the unthinkable, even by today’s standards.
My grandmother went to lie down and take a nap and she was startled
by her bedroom door opening. Earle was standing there and
apparently wanting more than was allowable from his aunt. My
grandmother was very shaken by this, and told my grandfather who
ordered both Doretta and Earle from his home.
In 1933, Lelia Glenn, grandma’s sister and
sister-in-law, Garland’s wife, died. She had suffered a nervous
breakdown (most likely post-partum depression) following the birth
of her second son, Richard in 1928, and had quickly been committed to Spring Grove Hospital, the same
mental institution in Catonsville that housed her brother James
Martin Ellers. At Spring Grove, she contracted tuberculosis, and was
moved to Mt. Wilson Hospital in Randallstown, then a State
Sanitorium for TB patients, now North Oakes Retirement Community. Her sons Richard and
Mifflin were split up and sent to relatives homes to be raised. My
grandmother’s sister Margaret took in Mifflin for a while and my
grandparents essentially raised Richard alongside my mother. I
always called him "Uncle Richard" even though he was technically my
mother's cousin. To her he was effectively her older brother. When Margaret’s first
marriage ended, she was forced to give Mifflin up and placed him in
a orphanage. Their were no other relatives willing to give him a
home and my grandparents had no room in their home for another
child. Residing at 9 Glenwood Ave were my grandparents, who gave up
their bedroom and were living in the unheated attic, my
grandmother’s mother, Sallie, her sister Margaret, and Garland Glenn
and his son Richard. There, simply put, was no more room. Mifflin
lied about his age, joined the army, served during WWII and Korea and rose to
the rank of 1st Lieutenant. He sent grandma (who he called "Sis") parachute
silk and trinkets bought in Italy and Germany during the war.
During all this, Sallie suffered a massive
stroke. My grandmother’s dear friend and neighbor Violet Bohannan
recalls hearing my grandmother call her name. She went for help and
told Violet that she thought that her mother was dead. Grandma kept
calling, “Mama! Mama! It’s Myrth! Mother! Mama!” Eventually Sallie
recovered, but Violet always swore that grandma had called her back
from the dead. When Margaret remarried, Sallie went to live with her
and lived another ten years, but was claimed by yet another stroke.
Margaret also took in Yvonne, her second husband’s daughter. She
was unable to have children of her own thanks to a pregnancy in her
fallopian tube. She lost the ovary and the tube and never became
pregnant again. They lived at 2810 Beechland Avenue in Hamilton.
The home had a double lot, and during WWII, Uncle Irwin put in a
victory garden which he kept up until he died. He also raised
chickens. Eggs were in abundance and apparently, so was
chicken for Sunday dinner. There was grape arbor in the yard
and Margaret made jelly and canned fruits and vegetables.
Most
of her immediate family is buried in Woodlawn Cemetery. It was a favorite place - I remember
feeding the swans on the lake as a child with her and my
grandfather. There is a stone on her grave, but her mother, father,
sister Lelia, brother James, and sister-in-law Gertrude are buried
just a few feet away in what is essentially an unmarked grave. There
is one footstone the reads "Ellers" to mark 5 graves. Minnie
and her husband are
buried a few feet to the other side of her.

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1. The Ellers girls
at Druid Hill Park - l. to r. - Lelia, Minnie, Margaret and Myrth
2. Grandma's first
cousin - Roland Roger Ellers (her father's brother Edward's son) -
they were the same age
3. Uncle Frank in
his WWI uniform
4. Aunt Minnie in
Frank's uniform (Grandma is peeping through the railing)
5. Aunt Margaret as
a teenager
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